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Anonymous asked: Okay, Me and my bestfriend haven't been the best since her mom passed away last year and she's had to move. I feel like me and her are drifting apart after 6 years she doesn't talk to me as much and half the time doesn't reply to my messages I have no idea what to do I don't want to lose her.

Friends often drift apart when distance gets in the way. It’s probably no fault of yours. A new town comes with new friends, new experiences, and new responsibilities. Losing her mom might have also made her lose sight of herself and the people she loves. 

I think you should just talk to her directly about it. But try not to have that conversation over text; better to call and hear her voice and let her hear yours. Don’t bring it up immediately either. Just chat with her a bit, and then ask her in a gentle way. 

“Hey ___, I feel like we have kind of drifted part and I just wanted to make sure everything is okay, but you’re like my sister and I don’t want to lose you.” Or something like that. 

Good luck my love! I hope everything works out <3 

Whether you need a friend, a place to vent, a shoulder to cry on, or anything else, I’m here for you. So come on in :)

Anonymous asked: I'm a 17 year old girl. My dad is a good man, but he is a heavy drinker. When he drinks he always wants to rough house, most of the time I oblige, but he always seems to take it a little too far. He doesn't mean to, and is playful, but he'll twist my arm behind my back or grab me roughly, even when I don't really want to mess around. He does it w/ a laugh and even though it hurts a lot in the moment, it doesn't the next day. He drinks enough to not always remember. would you consider this abuse?

Sweetheart, thank you so much for reaching out to me about this <3. As much as I really want to help you, I am not qualified to deal with this kind of situation and I truly want you to get the help that you deserve. 

It may help to tell a psychologist, who will keep what you say confidential, what you’ve been going through and listening to his/her insight. I’m so proud that you’ve taken the step to seek help, and I promise everything will get better <3

Anonymous asked: my best guy friend who I reallyy like wants to have sex with me. I've had relationships but am still a virgin. He has never been in a relationship or even kissed a girl and is a virgin too. We've been open with each other and he wants experience. I told him we could work our way up to sex but that I wouldn't do anything I'm not comfortable with or ready for. It would be a FWB deal. Is that bad? What would you do?

I went through a FWB deal a little while ago so what I’m about to say comes from experience. They are nice because you can explore your sexuality with someone you trust without having any strings attached. However, most of the time it does get complicated. One could develop feelings for the other. Or one could develop feelings for someone else, and then the relationship has to end abruptly when the other person is not necessarily ready for it to. 

In my case, I had been hooking up with this guy for a while before he told me that he liked another girl and was going to ask her out. I wasn’t necessarily devastated (I didn’t like him like that), but I was a little upset and frustrated that it ended that abruptly. It’s like you’re on a high for a while and then all of a sudden it has to stop, and the other person has no remorse because that’s the agreement you made.

Another consequence is the friendship afterwards becomes quite awkward and might end. Once you see that person in that light, it’s hard to forget it. I still talk to the guy, but our friendship is nothing like it used to be. If this guy is your best friend, I strongly suggest that he does not become your FWB. 

Also, about sex, please don’t lose it just to lose it. Sex means different things to different people. Some people can separate the emotions from it and treat it like holding hands or kissing. Others, though, cannot separate their emotions and often times get hurt. My advice to you is that you do not lose your virginity with a FWB, but with someone you love when you feel comfortable.

Hope this helps! Please come back if you have any questions <3 

Anonymous asked: How do you get your crush to like you?

Unfortunately there’s no magic way to make someone like you. However, there are steps you can take to ease into a closer relationship (whether it be a friendship or more).

First, start talking to the person. This is much easier if they’re in a class/club with you but it’s never impossible. If the person is shy, you might not receive the most reassuring results, but give it a couple tries and hopefully the person will warm up to you. Talk to him/her more until you exchange numbers. Text for a while and talk on Facebook and when you think he/she feels comfortable enough, invite him/her to hang out with you and a couple friends. If he/she doesn’t know them that gives you a chance to hang out alone. After a while if and when he/she becomes part of your friend group, then you can invite him to hang out alone (as friends). After a few times, if he/she doesn’t ask you out, you have a couple options - wait longer, ask him/her out, move on. 

Hope this helps! Just remember to never let anyone mistreat you and I promise that there is someone out there for you <3 

I know how it feels to think that you don’t have anyone to turn to. Well, I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to feel that way anymore. Whether you need a medium to vent, a friend, a shoulder to cry on, or anything else, I’m here for you. <3

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